Books We Recommend



I Don't Need Help!

How to Help Someone With Mental Illness Accept Treatment by Xavier Amador, Ph.D.



It is heartbreaking and thoroughly frustrating to know that your loved one is suffering from a mental illness but be unable to convince them that they are ill and need treatment including medication.  It feels like denial to you, but new research on anosognosia shows that it is actually part of the illness:

                "a majority of individuals with schizophrenia lacked insight into having a psychotic

                  Illness" and that this problem is "a manifestation of the illness itself rather than a

                  coping strategy."

Knowing this, however, rarely stops the caregiver from trying to convince their loved one which often becomes adversarial , rarely engages the patient and ultimately harms the relationship.

Inspired by his efforts to help his schizophrenic brother, Dr. Amador has devised a program called "The LEAP Approach" for better communication skills which will lead to better adherence to treatment:

   Listen, Empathize, Agree and Partner. 

This book teaches you how to apply each of these skills along with many helpful examples of how this can lead to better compliance with prescribed medication.  He also reviews other stumbling blocks to adherence along with additional methods of improving treatment results.

This landmark book is very readable for both families and professionals.  Dr. Amador also explains his method in many you-tube videos.



                    Just Like Someone Without Mental Illness Only More So

                                                                    by Mark Vonnegut                                                           


                          “When I talk to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and other patient
                            support groups, I take questions at the end. At one talk I was asked, “What’s
                            the difference between yourself and someone without mental illness?”

                           At another talk I was asked, “How doyou make the voices be not so mean?”

                           “I wish I knew.”   ― 

Mark Vonnegut, M.D., son of Kurt and Jane Vonnegut, grew up in Barnstable with his sisters and four orphaned cousins.  The Vonnegut’s, prior to Kurt Vonnegut’s literary success, struggled financially as well as socially on Cape Cod.

Vonnegut recounts his journey through childhood into adulthood; navigating life challenged by mental health issues.  He recalls with candor and wit events in his life that include getting into Harvard and becoming a Pediatrician, during which there are periods lost to hospitalizations and battles with alcoholism.    

This is Mark Vonnegut’s second memoir, followed by The Eden Express.  It is enjoyable, funny and wise, as well as quotable.  Through his unique perspective, Vonnegut is able to offer the reader insight of a person battling an illness most of us cannot comprehend, while achieving a successful and ambitious professional life.  He is an example of how one takes their experiences and becomes a caring and compassionate physician, husband and father; while not allowing the stigma of mental illness to define their life.

Mark Vonnegut has many insightful, as well as entertaining thoughts.   His ideas hold wisdom that most people often overlook, but are delivered to the reader so well.

“Medical care has become a lot of crust and precious little pie.” 




                          Coping With BPD: DBT and CBT Skills to Soothe the Symptoms of

                                                        Borderline Personality Disorder 

by Blaise Aguirre, MD and Gillian Galen, PsyD

People struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder face many emotional challenges that often interfere with their relationships. These challenges may lead to everything from conflicts that are resolved quickly, to resolution over a period of time, to long term estrangement.  This guide will help people who suffer from BPD, as well as anybody who is feeling depressed, angry, anxious or worried.  

The authors, who are clinicians at McLean Hospital, use DBT (a form of behavioral therapy) to teach skills that help a person react more effectively to overwhelming emotions. This guide addresses over 50 of the most common struggles people with BPD face, and offer evidence-based solutions to resolving the challenges.

 The format is straightforward and easy to use.  For each scenario there is a Problem Statement (an overview of a situation); What it looks like (an illustration of the problem based on real-world examples); The Practice (specific skills and techniques to that can be applied to solving the situation); Checklist (a list of questions to keep the reader on track with a solution).

 Although this book was written for people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, the message and coaching skills communicated in Coping with BPD, are helpful to the common challenges humans face.



Parenting a Teen Who Has Intense EmotionsDBT Skills to Help Your Teen Navigate Emotional & Behavioral Challenges.

         By Pat Harvey and Britt H. Rathbone Published in 2015 by New Harbinger Publication, Inc.

Dealing with a teen with intense emotions? Not sure how to respond or help? This book is for you.

Written by therapists who have worked with struggling adolescents and their families for decades, this book simply and practically outlines skills and strategies for parents and caregivers of children with challenging behaviors and emotions. Using Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), they help parents better understand their teen and how best to respond to problem behaviors using effective and balanced parenting strategies.

The book specifically addresses anxiety issues, eating disorders, self harm and disruptive and risky choices.

This book addresses the impact of a child with challenges on the family including extended family members and siblings and how best to cope. It is written with an attitude of acceptance and is not about finding fault or blame.

DBT, developed by psychologist Marsha Linehan in 1993, was initially developed to help people with intense emotions that lead to self harm and suicidal behaviors. Now, an evidence-based therapy, it is widely used to treat many kinds of mental health issues. DBT skills and strategies are based on the concept that people need to be accepted and that they are doing the best they can in that moment. DBT skills help people replace unhealthy behavior with more adaptive ones.




The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation  by Alan E. Fruzzetti Ph.D. (Author), Marsha Linehan (Foreword)

 Dr. Fruzetti's  describes how using dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) skills can help couples deal with out-of-control emotions that lead to destructive fights and difficulties resolving problems. He incorporates the importance of using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques to deescalate situations before they get out of control. Through years of working with couples dealing with these challenges, Dr. Fruzzetti provides ways to find acceptance and closeness with someone you love.





Loud in the House of Myself: Memoir of a Strange Girl

                                          by Stacy Pershall published in 2011 by WW Norton and Company

Stacy Pershall is a fascinating and unique character. She grew up in a small town in Arkansas, struggled with bulimia and anorexia throughout her teens and she experienced her first manic episode at eighteen. After a suicide attempt which she broadcast live on her webcam, she wanted her life to change.

Pershall chronicles her tumultuous journey through the mental health system and how body modification through tattoos helped in her recovery.

A testimony to the effectiveness of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, this quirky memoir effectively illustrates how often a primary or secondary diagnosis of borderline personality disorder would change the course of treatment and prevent over prescription of medications that do not help.

Note:  Borderline Personality Disorder rarely occurs alone and often exists in combination with other disorders such as depression, substance abuse or bipolar disorder.




                                 The Illustrated Happiness Trap

                                                                              by Russ Harris & illustrated by Bev Aisbett


The Illustrated Happiness Trap is a simplified illustrated version of the bestseller, The Happiness Trap also by Russ Harris. Using clever, descriptive drawings it provides a great tool to become familiar with Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) prior to reading the original and longer version or act as a refresher for anyone trained to use ACT.

Acceptance Commitment Therapy is a widely used and is based on two main principles, mindfulness and values. Used together, ACT helps deal with painful feelings and thoughts to ultimately create a fuller, more meaningful life. In this illustrated version you will learn what mindfulness is and what skills need to be learned. Through "defusion", expansion and connection the book illustrates how to start living in the present instead of worrying about the future or thinking about the past. With ACT you learn to focus on how your values give your life purpose, meaning and direction.


                                    Surviving Schizophrenia: A Family Manual 

                  is indeed "The Indispensable Guide to Today's    Most Misunderstood Illness"  as it is billed.

This is the 6th Edition by Dr. E. Fuller Torrey, the world's leading expert on schizophrenia,  who includes over 30 years of both personal and professional experience along with the latest research findings on what causes this insidious disease as well as information on the newest medications. The book is filled with both neuroscientific facts, common sense advice, and answers to the questions families are often too upset or afraid to ask.

Filled with quotes that help the reader understand the inner workings of the mind of the schizophrenic which is often a mystery, the book adds such important tenets as:

     "It should always be remembered that the behavior of persons with schizophrenia is internally logical and rational; they do things for reasons that, given their own disordered senses and thinking, makes sense to them"

Psychology Today writes that Surviving Schizophrenia is a "comprehensive, realistic and compassionate approach...Should be of tremendous value to anyone who must confront these questions."


Furiously Happy:  A Funny Book About Horrible Things

In Furiously Happy, Jenny Lawson explores her lifelong battle with mental illness. A hysterical, ridiculous book about crippling depression and anxiety? That sounds like a terrible idea.

But terrible ideas are what Jenny does best.

As Jenny says:

"Some people might think that being 'furiously happy' is just an excuse to be stupid and irresponsible and invite a herd of kangaroos over to your house without telling your husband first because you suspect he would say no since he's never particularly liked kangaroos. And that would be ridiculous because no one would invite a herd of kangaroos into their house. Two is the limit. I speak from personal experience. My husband says that none is the new limit. I say he should have been clearer about that before I rented all those kangaroos.

Like John Hughes wrote in The Breakfast Club, 'We're all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at hiding it.' Except go back and cross out the word 'hiding.'"

Furiously Happy is about "taking those moments when things are fine and making them amazing, because those moments are what make us who we are, and they're the same moments we take into battle with us when our brains declare war on our very existence. It's the difference between "surviving life" and "living life". It's the difference between "taking a shower" and "teaching your monkey butler how to shampoo your hair." It's the difference between being "sane" and being "furiously happy."

This is a book about embracing everything that makes us who we are - the beautiful and the flawed - and then using it to find joy in fantastic and outrageous ways. 


Because as Jenny's mom says, "Maybe 'crazy' isn't so bad after all." Sometimes crazy is just right.


                                                             Resilience by Jessie Close with Pete Earley

Resilience is a powerful and compelling true story written by Jessie Close and Pete Earley and published earlier this year.  In spite of a life of privilege and opportunity, at 15 Jessie’s life started to fall apart. Not properly diagnosed or treated appropriately until she was almost fifty, she writes of an out of control life of addiction, failed marriages and the struggle to help her son with mental illness.

Jessie is the younger sister of Glenn Close, an award-winning actor. Glenn contributed several chapters to the book and writes candidly that the family never understood what was happening. It wasn’t until Jessie feared she would take her own life that she opened up to her family and was given the proper treatment.

In recovery,  and frustrated with the stigma she and her family faced with a mental heath diagnosis, Jessie asked Glenn for help.  In response, Glenn created a public service announcement entitled, “Change a Mind About Mental Illness”. It was directed by Ron Howard and was filmed inside Grand Central Station. The film begins with hundreds of passengers hurrying through the crowded lobby.  In pairs, people slowly start to appear wearing white T-shirts with blue lettering. Against the dark clothes the others are wearing the white T-shirts stand out.

The first pair read MOM and SCHIZOPHRENIA, the next two PTSD and BATTLE BUDDY; the next pair was DEPRESSION and BETTER HALF. Jessie Close’s son Calen appears with two young women. Their T-shirts read SCHIZOPHRENIA, SISTER and COUSIN. The T-shirts that Glenn and Jessie were wearing read BIPOLAR and SISTER.  At one point Glenn puts her arms around her sister and says, “Change a mind about mental illness and you can change a life.” In the last moments of the PSA the white T-shirts change to dark colors so each person blends into the crowd.  Among the many messages the PSA delivers, it encourages us to support and stand up for our friends and loved ones who have a mental illness and to work to end the stigma.

Since the PSA first aired in 2009, Jessie has continued to work to end the stigma associated with mental illness and has received many awards honoring her efforts including one from NAMI.  Jessie writes a regular blog for, an anti-stigma organization started by Glenn.

Pete Earley is the author of Crazy: A Father’s Search Through America’s Mental Health Madness and has been a longtime advocate for mental health reform and a supporter of NAMI.  


Knit for Health & Wellness:  How to knit a flexible mind and more...

By Betsan Corkhill

Women throughout the ages have been knitting blankets and articles of clothing.  That they enjoyed the process or the camaraderie if they knit with others, was a side benefit not to be taken seriously.

Betsan Corkhill, a trained physiotherapist, in her book “Knit for Health & Wellness” has now given these women scientific justification for their enjoyment.  Findings from a study which surveyed 3,514 knitters from 31 countries were the same regardless of the different cultural, educational and health backgrounds of the knitters.  Knitting provided a therapeutic tool to help manage anxiety, panic, depression or chronic medical illness.   In their study, 81% of those with clinical depression who responded said they usually or definitely felt happier after knitting:

                “Knitting calms me down when I’m stressed, gets me excited when it feels like there’s

                No point in living, gives me something to think about that is outside myself, a reason to get

                Up in the morning”

This book explains how you can knit to benefit your health and wellbeing as well as improve your relationships, friendships and community.  “It is about embracing the complexity of how and why our brain processes experiences.”

The book is filled with illuminating and thought provoking quotes from both knitters and clinicians.  In addition, there is a website ( which provides free access to information, research and a community of fellow knitters.


                    Born to Run - The NY Times best-selling Bruce Springsteen                                                                   autobiography


When it was released a few weeks ago, I immediately grabbed a copy of this book for two reasons: number one, I am a Springsteen fan and have been for decades and number two, I had read a review that spoke about Springsteen’s going public concerning his lifelong struggle with mental health issues including major depressive episodes. The purchase was money well spent and I got much more from the book than I had anticipated.

In addition to being extremely well written, the book delves into not only the historical development and evolution of rock and roll and Springsteen’s iconic role, it also provides a great deal of insight into the postindustrial wastelands of this country, a development we need to understand as we come to terms with the deep divisions and extreme anger that became evident in the 2016 presidential election. Bruce Springsteen came of age in this era in an environment negatively affected by the changing economics and culture of the late 20th Century. His angry and brooding father (in his later years diagnosed with schizophrenia) was a victim of these changing times.

Springsteen also publicly lays out his own decades long battle with mental illness in a very honest and thoughtful way. We see Springsteen in a different and even more serious role as he relates his feelings as he is “Born to Run” from his demons, his fear of failure, his mania, and his depression. (He publicly acknowledges his therapist and his 30 years of psychotherapy.) He examines his relationships with parents, grandparents, siblings, wives, his children, the members of the E Street Band, his audiences, and his business managers with brutal honesty and often with self-degradation.

There is so much to be contemplated in the reading and digesting of this book from the cultural history of rock and roll to the changing landscape of American life to the agony and pain of living a volatile, yet highly successful public life while suffering severe mental illness.

I think that this review from the Wall Street Journal sums it up:

Born to Run has a compelling narrative and an organized structure worthy of a Catholic schoolboy of the 50’s—Mr. Springsteen writes fluidly about subjects light, dark, and darker. He is funny and solemn, tender and insightful. In Born to Run, he risks his mystic stature, but he emerges as more substantial, more admirable. Now Springsteen isn’t merely a star. He is a man—a son, a husband, a father, and a friend—willing to share what he has learned.”